Revenge is the inclination you get after having your cheeks bloom with redness and fire, your throat constrict and your hands clench into fists. It is the feeling that resides within after that the abusive tirade toward your person that you’ve received, a response to the beatings you have suffered, to the injustice you have become subject to.

While there is a lot to be said in re. to both injustices and of the justified feeling of revenge, there is brief line for you here:

“The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.“, said Marcus Aurelius.

People feel abused because they have been subjected to abuse. Thus, if you were to abuse others in whichever way, after having yourself been subjected to abuse and belittlement, would make you no better than the asshole that caused pain in you. Not only that, it would create one more viction in a world with too many already. (I could indeed say that such behaviour would perpetuate the cycle of hate and suffering, but that would be a tad too Buddhist of me.).

This in itself will not help overcoming the pain, but it will help seal the door after you once you have healed the wounds that ooze the desire for revenge.

(This does not mean that abuse, assault and destruction should be disregarded, go unpunished and forgotten; of course not. More on that later.)